Dating a divorced lady who has children from a previous marriage introduces many complicated issues. How to deal with the relationship between you and her children? Can you get alone well with them? This article will give you several tips.
1. Respect your date’s children
Children are simple and pure. They can quickly become attached to someone new and, consequently, may be confused or hurt if the relationship ends. So you should wait until your relationship shows signs of becoming serious before making introductions. If your date wants you to meet her children right away, suggest that she introduce you as a friend.
2. Show your interest in your date’s children
You may consider bringing them small gifts to show your sincere interest in them, such as baseball cards for a collector or new crayons for an aspiring artist. Don’t bring anything extravagant, which he may perceive as an effort to buy his affection.
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3. Plan an outing for your date’s childrenOnce your relationship becomes somewhat serious, try to get to know her children gradually, without attempting to rush or force the relationship or stepping in as a parental figure. Plan an outing that is fun and that requires minimal interaction. Go ice skating, take a day hike, visit the zoo or attend a sporting event. Activities such as those offer low-pressure ways of becoming acquainted with each other. Ask them for help planning-requesting their opinion can help get the relationship off to a good start.
4. Accompany your date’s children
Many children of divorced parents still have a lingering hope that their parents will reunite, and you are a sign that her parent’s relationship really is over. Common reactions to a new relationship include resentment, fear, jealousy and competitiveness. Company is the best way to show your date’s children that you’ll love their mother as well as them forever, you’ll be there relieve their confusion and fear, and you’ll always be there through thick and thin.
Getting alone well with children is not easy，especially with those who you never know before. Don’t ignore their feelings and try hard to comfort them. Because they are part of your lover’s life. And they should also be part of yours if you really want to establish a harmonious family.
